Anxiety Always worrying about older children

[Lammchen]

Parents never stop worrying about their children. My daughter is 27 and lives on her own and if I don't hear from her every few days I begin to worry. If she doesn't text me to tell me she made it home after driving back to the city I worry!

It's okay to worry...but is there a time when it can become too much?

 

[PGen98]

I think the only time it becomes too much is if you were to start expecting to hear every day, or started checking up every day. I think worrying about your children, even as they're getting older and living their lives, is a perfectly natural thing. You're concerned for their well being because, no matter their age, they're still your baby

 

[gibby]

my mum is the same!

 

[Lee]

I think having older children is likely to be MORE worrisome for me. I can think of 100 things that my older children might do that can result in death, that my younger children just wont do.

I am not looking forward to the drinking / bars / clubs phase of life at all. I will be a nervous wreck! :O

 

[PGen98]

I think having older children is likely to be MORE worrisome for me. I can think of 100 things that my older children might do that can result in death, that my younger children just wont do.

I am not looking forward to the drinking / bars / clubs phase of life at all. I will be a nervous wreck! :O

One reason I'm glad I don't have kids is this very phase. That and relationships, I'd be terrified by my kids reaching the age where they're interested in relationships. I wouldn't care if my child was straight, gay, trans, pansexual, etc, but the second they actually started finding someone "interesting," that's when my anxiety would kick into full gear. I don't know how parents cope with that!

 

[JoyFreak]

It's only natural to feel worried about your children. It can be frustrating if the child is no longer a child but an adult. You just have to be less suffocating and more understanding.

 

[Lammchen]

It's only natural to feel worried about your children. It can be frustrating if the child is no longer a child but an adult. You just have to be less suffocating and more understanding.

That's really hard. My daughter is late 20s and I worry about her all the time. She lives in the city whereas I live in the country and she is totally oblivious to the crime around her.