Mental Illness Do you feel unlovable

 

ZandraJoi

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I like it saying are flaws are unique & we can learn from our mistakes. Mistakes are not bad. How else are we to learn & grow?
 

Mira

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I am finding it hard to click on it. To worried my mind will tell me that no one is unloveable....... but me.
 

Foxy

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Mira said:
"I am finding it hard to click on it. To worried my mind will tell me that no one is unloveable....... but me."

^ This thought is one of the reasons you feel as awful as you do, you are isolating yourself from others. You are not alone in this world. More people share your feelings of being unlovable than you can possibly imagine.
 

Mira

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Mira said:
"I am finding it hard to click on it. To worried my mind will tell me that no one is unloveable....... but me."

^ This thought is one of the reasons you feel as awful as you do, you are isolating yourself from others. You are not alone in this world. More people share your feelings of being unlovable than you can possibly imagine.
You are so right. But that is something I find you are a lot of times.

For me its true. My logical part sees that. But the other part is stronger most of the time. And that prevents me from making friends. Not to mention a relationship.
 

Foxy

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Personally @Mira, I find a sweetness and sensitivity in you that makes you very charming and worthy of being loved. I am sure I'm not speaking out of turn by saying others here share my feelings about you.
 

Mira

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Thank you so much for saying that. It is something that I find hard to believe. I think I have indoctrinated myself a lot over the years.

I do know that there is good inside of me. But there are some members here that have seen the other side of me :(
 

Foxy

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Nobody's perfect @Mira and yet as imperfect as we all are, we are still able to love and be loved by others. But most importantly we need to love and accept ourselves just as we are, flaws and all. I am far from perfect, but I know you wouldn't turn me away and write me off for my imperfections. I believe you would recognize the good in me and see my efforts to overcome my flaws in my ongoing effort to be the best person I can possibly be. We're all in this (human) race together. Good people stop and help lift our fellow runners when they stumble along the way so we cross the finish line together. ❤️

 

Mira

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Yes, I try and see the good in everyone and I would not write anyone off. At least not so fast. I have a lot of compassion and care in me to be there for others. Be a friend. But the other part of me keeps telling me I do not deserve any of it. That I am a terrible human being.

But here there is a lovely group of people and I am honoured to be a part of it :hug3
 

Dave

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@Mira one of the things I admire about you is that you open up and let your feelings, raw as they may be, show; a lot of people bottle their feelings up and turn them inwards and end up being self destructive. The world is a strange, fascinating place and there are lots of things out there that can hurt us, but the one thing that hurts us most is ourselves. Sure there are people out there, sad people, who take delight in hurting others, but they are the ones to pity, because they are the unloveable, not you.

Finding someone to love you is not an easy task, but you need to put yourself out there so that someone can connect with you. I understand that it's difficult for you because your confidence has taken a beating. Go for baby steps, do a little something each day that takes you out of your sheltered environment and become a little bolder each day. Mixing with other people is important and there are people out there just like you who wonder if someone will love them; that someone could be you and they may just love you back for making the effort to be there for them to see.
 
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